Are
cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people to cheat?
Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that make
people cheat:
1. Bored
I’d
say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It’s tough to keep
that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and then
level off and then you both realize that it’s still real life. When you
meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new relationship
kicks back in.
2. Dependence
At first glance,
cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be interpreted as
doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue that cheating is
a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because they are not
strong enough to break up with their significant other in order to get
with the new person.
3. Confusion
Sometimes
life or a particular situation can get to you. When the perfect storm
of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.
4. Because They Let You
If
any girl ever cheated on me, I’d break up with her immediately.
Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle.
That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to
cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you’ll
continue to take them back.
5. Nurturing
If
someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away
from him or her. But sometimes it’s not that simple-maybe you are
raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it’s
only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats
you well.
6. Revenge
This is quite simple- an eye
for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If they continuously
hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.
7. Confirmation of Attractiveness
Sometimes
when you’re in a long relationship, or if your significant other is
taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you’re still attractive.
Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you felt more
attractive when you were single. If you have an affair, you’ve proven
that a new person can be attracted to you.
8. The Thrill
Some
people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly,
risking getting caught, and creating thrilling moments with a forbidden
romance.
9. They Don’t Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might
Relationships
have that grey area, usually right before you become exclusive. He
thinks date #4 is when you’re “together,” and you think date #2 is when
you’re “together.” If you haven’t talked about exclusivity, someone may
think they are well within their rights to see other people, even
though the other person in the relationship may not.
I don’t understand why people don’t break up as soon as they have an urge to cheat.
Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the
relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this
list, and do you disagree with any? If you’ve ever cheated, why did you
do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a
person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?
cheaters born cheaters, or do certain situations cause people to cheat?
Probably a little bit of both. Here are some situations that make
people cheat:
1. Bored
I’d
say this is the most common reason that people cheat.It’s tough to keep
that edge throughout a relationship. Things start off grand and then
level off and then you both realize that it’s still real life. When you
meet someone else, that inaugural excitement of a new relationship
kicks back in.
2. Dependence
At first glance,
cheating seems like independent behavior. It could be interpreted as
doing what you want, when you want. But I would argue that cheating is
a dependent behavior. A cheater is dependent because they are not
strong enough to break up with their significant other in order to get
with the new person.
3. Confusion
Sometimes
life or a particular situation can get to you. When the perfect storm
of confusion is going on in your head, you make mistakes.
4. Because They Let You
If
any girl ever cheated on me, I’d break up with her immediately.
Forgiving a cheater is putting up with it, and starts a vicious cycle.
That person who cheated may lose respect for you and might continue to
cheat-because they know they can get away with it, because you’ll
continue to take them back.
5. Nurturing
If
someone is mistreating you, then your first instinct is to get away
from him or her. But sometimes it’s not that simple-maybe you are
raising kids together. If you feel trapped in a bad relationship, it’s
only natural that you will run to the open arms of a person who treats
you well.
6. Revenge
This is quite simple- an eye
for an eye. Cheat on them if they cheat on you. If they continuously
hurt you or abuse you in some way, you do it to get them back.
7. Confirmation of Attractiveness
Sometimes
when you’re in a long relationship, or if your significant other is
taking you for granted, you begin to wonder if you’re still attractive.
Perhaps, because you were out on the dating circuit, you felt more
attractive when you were single. If you have an affair, you’ve proven
that a new person can be attracted to you.
8. The Thrill
Some
people just enjoy the thrill of cheating: running around secretly,
risking getting caught, and creating thrilling moments with a forbidden
romance.
9. They Don’t Consider It Cheating, Even Though You Might
Relationships
have that grey area, usually right before you become exclusive. He
thinks date #4 is when you’re “together,” and you think date #2 is when
you’re “together.” If you haven’t talked about exclusivity, someone may
think they are well within their rights to see other people, even
though the other person in the relationship may not.
I don’t understand why people don’t break up as soon as they have an urge to cheat.
Is it natural to have temptation, or is temptation a sign that the
relationship is losing its fire? What reasons would you add to this
list, and do you disagree with any? If you’ve ever cheated, why did you
do it? Could you forgive a cheater? If you are single, but seeing a
person who is in a committed relationship, does that make you a cheater?
