There was once a young girl who was very fond of dancing. Her skill in
dancing was extraordinary and surpassed her dancing friends that she often
appeared as the champion in many competition held.
She thought, with what she possess at that time, one day later when she grew up, she would want to
be a world class dancer. She imagined herself dancing in Russia, China,
America, Japan, being watched by thousands of people giving applause to her
on salutation.
One day, the city she resided in was visited by a dancing expert
proffessional who came from abroad. This dancing expert was very
fascinating, from his hands have been born out world class dancers. The
young girl desired very much to dance and exhibit her prowess in front of
the teacher, or even if possible, to be one of his pupil.
Finally
the opportunity came at last. The young girl managed to meet with the
teacher behind the screen after his performance was over.
The
young girl asked "Sir, i really want to be a wold-class dancer. Can you
give me a moment of your time, to judge my dancing skill? I want to
know what you think of my dance."
"Fine, dance then for 10 minutes", the expert responded
Not even 10 minutes have passed, the teacher stood up from his chair, and
left the place without saying any word to the young girl.
How broken heart the young girl was upon that.
The girl immediately ran out, reaching her
home, she cried and cried. She began hating herself. Afterall, the dance
that she had been proud of all those years were nothing at all for the
teacher.
She then get hold of her dancing shoes and threw it in the garbage.
Since
then, she swore not ever to dance anymore. Several decades have passed,
now the young girl have became a mother with three children.
Her husband had passed away. And to feed her family, she had
to work as waitress in a restaurant at the corner of a street.
One day, there was a dance exhibition being held in the city.
The same expert could be seen behind the young dancers behind the platform. The
expert looked much older, with his hair whitening. The mother with her
children went to see the dance show.
After the show, the mother brought her
three children into the back, looking for the teacher, and introduced him to
her three children. The old teacher still recognize her, and so they
converse with each other enjoyfully.
The mother asked, "Sir, i still have one thing that still bothers me. It
was about me performing in front of you many many years ago. Was my
perfomance that bad that you leave straight away?"
"Oh yes, I remembered it.
Frankly speaking, I never have ever seen in my life such beautiful dance
that you showed me at that time. I was even sure that you would surely
become a world-class dancer, but i was dumbfounded how you suddenly stopped
from the world of dancing", answered the teacher.
The young mother was extremely shocked hearing it. "This is not fair!", she
exclaimed. "Your attitude had stolen all my dreams! If it was true that my
dance was good, why did you just leave me that way when i had just only
danced for several minutes? You should have praised me, not ignoring me like
that. I am supposed to be a world-class dancer right now, not just a
waitress!"
The teacher answered calmly with his wisdom, "No...No, I think I have done
what I thought was right. You don't need to drink a barrel of wine to know
that the wine is good. The same goes with me. I didnt need to watch you for
10 minutes to prove that your dance was good. That night I was also very
exhausted after the show. So I was thinking to leave you for a moment, to
get you my name card, and hoped that you would contact me again the next
day. But then you were not there anymore when i returned.
And another thing that I have to remind you, that You should focus on your dreams not, on what
I say or what I do or what the world say! Then applause?
So you expected praise and applause? Ah, maybe at that time you were still growing, young
lady.
*Praise like a dobule edged sword. at some times it will motivate you,
at the other times it will weaken you. *And the fact is that I had observed
that most of the
*PRAISE GIVEN TO A GROWING CHILD, WILL JUST MAKE HIM/HER
FEEL SATISFIED OF THE CURRENT PROGRESS AND HINDERS FURTHER GROWTH. I EVEN
PREFER TO IGNORE YOU, AS IT SUPPOSEDLY CAN ROCKET YOUR PROGRESS*.
Besides,
praise is something that should come from myself, not something that you
should
ask for." "You see, this was actually only a small matter. If only at
that time you idnt ignore what happened and kept on dancing, you would
have became a very
great world-class dancer. Ypu might hurt at that time but it will dissipate
quickly once you keep on practising again.But the hurt emerged from this
regret today will never disappear for the rest of your
life..."
dancing was extraordinary and surpassed her dancing friends that she often
appeared as the champion in many competition held.
She thought, with what she possess at that time, one day later when she grew up, she would want to
be a world class dancer. She imagined herself dancing in Russia, China,
America, Japan, being watched by thousands of people giving applause to her
on salutation.
One day, the city she resided in was visited by a dancing expert
proffessional who came from abroad. This dancing expert was very
fascinating, from his hands have been born out world class dancers. The
young girl desired very much to dance and exhibit her prowess in front of
the teacher, or even if possible, to be one of his pupil.
Finally
the opportunity came at last. The young girl managed to meet with the
teacher behind the screen after his performance was over.
The
young girl asked "Sir, i really want to be a wold-class dancer. Can you
give me a moment of your time, to judge my dancing skill? I want to
know what you think of my dance."
"Fine, dance then for 10 minutes", the expert responded
Not even 10 minutes have passed, the teacher stood up from his chair, and
left the place without saying any word to the young girl.
How broken heart the young girl was upon that.
The girl immediately ran out, reaching her
home, she cried and cried. She began hating herself. Afterall, the dance
that she had been proud of all those years were nothing at all for the
teacher.
She then get hold of her dancing shoes and threw it in the garbage.
Since
then, she swore not ever to dance anymore. Several decades have passed,
now the young girl have became a mother with three children.
Her husband had passed away. And to feed her family, she had
to work as waitress in a restaurant at the corner of a street.
One day, there was a dance exhibition being held in the city.
The same expert could be seen behind the young dancers behind the platform. The
expert looked much older, with his hair whitening. The mother with her
children went to see the dance show.
After the show, the mother brought her
three children into the back, looking for the teacher, and introduced him to
her three children. The old teacher still recognize her, and so they
converse with each other enjoyfully.
The mother asked, "Sir, i still have one thing that still bothers me. It
was about me performing in front of you many many years ago. Was my
perfomance that bad that you leave straight away?"
"Oh yes, I remembered it.
Frankly speaking, I never have ever seen in my life such beautiful dance
that you showed me at that time. I was even sure that you would surely
become a world-class dancer, but i was dumbfounded how you suddenly stopped
from the world of dancing", answered the teacher.
The young mother was extremely shocked hearing it. "This is not fair!", she
exclaimed. "Your attitude had stolen all my dreams! If it was true that my
dance was good, why did you just leave me that way when i had just only
danced for several minutes? You should have praised me, not ignoring me like
that. I am supposed to be a world-class dancer right now, not just a
waitress!"
The teacher answered calmly with his wisdom, "No...No, I think I have done
what I thought was right. You don't need to drink a barrel of wine to know
that the wine is good. The same goes with me. I didnt need to watch you for
10 minutes to prove that your dance was good. That night I was also very
exhausted after the show. So I was thinking to leave you for a moment, to
get you my name card, and hoped that you would contact me again the next
day. But then you were not there anymore when i returned.
And another thing that I have to remind you, that You should focus on your dreams not, on what
I say or what I do or what the world say! Then applause?
So you expected praise and applause? Ah, maybe at that time you were still growing, young
lady.
*Praise like a dobule edged sword. at some times it will motivate you,
at the other times it will weaken you. *And the fact is that I had observed
that most of the
*PRAISE GIVEN TO A GROWING CHILD, WILL JUST MAKE HIM/HER
FEEL SATISFIED OF THE CURRENT PROGRESS AND HINDERS FURTHER GROWTH. I EVEN
PREFER TO IGNORE YOU, AS IT SUPPOSEDLY CAN ROCKET YOUR PROGRESS*.
Besides,
praise is something that should come from myself, not something that you
should
ask for." "You see, this was actually only a small matter. If only at
that time you idnt ignore what happened and kept on dancing, you would
have became a very
great world-class dancer. Ypu might hurt at that time but it will dissipate
quickly once you keep on practising again.But the hurt emerged from this
regret today will never disappear for the rest of your
life..."